STOP DYING.
LIVE A SECOND LIFETIME.
40 years out of high school
is a real milestone
that can turn up or down.
Age 60 will be a tough turning point
compared with the end
of your teens.
Remember when you were afraid
to say or do something wrong?
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MY STORY:
IN ANTICIPATION
OF AN EARLY DEATH:
I didn't get my teeth cleaned
or repaired.
I didn't buy new clothing.
I adopted the body language
of an older person.
I wanted people to pity me
and commiserate with me
and my heart problems.
I begged off of physical
activities that could
cause a problem.
I gained 15 lbs.
I discovered pains
I never had before.
I grew stiff and unlimber
for lack of movement.
I got pains in my arm and spine
from lying on the couch
so often and so carelessly.
I started reading
the obituary column.
Miraculously
I didn't kill myself
from inactivity and self pity.
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MORE OF MY STORY:
MY FATHER'S DEATH
Which came first
my father's Alzheimers and stroke
or his decision
to give up on life?
Low expectation
of success and reward.
He may have "adopted" Alzheimers
and its symptoms because
they were a socially acceptable
way to quit living.
By not exercising
he could get someone else
to wipe and wash his body
and change his diapers.
My second lifetime
ideas were too late for my father.
He had already lost
interest in living.
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REVIEW
What was the greatest day
of your life?
I just spent a Sunday brunch
with my schoolmates from 1949.
I had enjoyed
the previous reunions.
But my classmates' lack
of concrete plans for the future
raised ominous thoughts
about my own deterioration
and death.
I'm enjoying the solutions
I have found.
If you adopt some of these ideas
you might add a socially
significant dimension
to your life.
I've continued to attend reunions
with my high school classmates
and with my National Guard unit.
Most of my perspectives
about life
love and tragedies result
from reflection on my life and lives
of relatives and classmates.
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To write any book
usually requires a chain
of experiences that connect.
My 40th reunion was a catalyst.
The chain might have started
with old Chief Fast Horse.
He lived on the Pine Ridge
Reservation where I lived
from 3rd to 8th grade.
It might have continued
with Two Finger Nichols
who founded U.S. Plywood.
I visited his home and office
in Cody (Wyoming) in 1958.
His bright-eyed tolerance
for my sales pitch
and his willingness to share ideas
and his life story surprised me.
My 50's traveling friend
Jim Walden was very successful
in business.
When Jim was 45
he went back to college
to get a master's
and become a Catholic deacon.
At the time
I thought it was silly.
Why doesn't Jim
just make a few more millions
instead of preaching sermons
in the state penitentiary?
Note 2001
Jim is still serving the church.
Writing this book
is a challenging experience.
It has become a real opportunity
for me to review and rethink
some ideas I've always
sort-of taken for granted.
Some of these ideas
need plenty of discussion
and comparison
with other "die early"
philosophies.
Many of us are living longer
than we expected in the 50's.
Most of us are healthier
than we expected.
Most of us are wealthier
than we expected.
Many of us are happier
than we expected.
I found I was dancing
with 80% of my previous skill
and enjoying it.
I believe the challenge
is to harness
our left over abilities.
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PROBLEMS:
THE ONE LIFE - LIFE
High School 17 - 22 years
Working School 17 - 30 years
Marriage
Children
Jobs 13 to 60 +
1st 40 Career 30 - 60 +
Saving Money
Acquiring homes and things
The two-life life
Comparative chart
Adds a complete and potentially
equal span of adult living
that properly planned
will add much enjoyment
to your life.
This attitudinal change
takes away the traditional
cultural limits to your life.
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SOLUTIONS:
LIVING THE SECOND LIFETIME
Its crazy to stop
after the first 40.
Now that you know
you can go for the 2nd 40
you can explore
exciting new aspects of life.
You can advance the opportunities
in your life far beyond any
of your previous 1st 40 dreams.
Second 40 choices are much easier.
During the 1st 40
you had to work out problems
and make decisions
based on your limited education
and experience.
Now with all the 1st 40
under your belt
you'll be able to make
a very wide range
of better choices.
Finding a new idealism
for life.
So what if you really end up
with only 20 or 30 years
of the 2nd 40
I've been talking about.
Unless I miss my guess
you'll be a lot happier
with your 2nd 40
than your 1st 40.
Maximize your life.
Adding another 40
to your life expectancy
will give you the time to get all those
"I wish I had time for's"
off your mind.
Start making your wish list
of accomplishents now.
Estimate how long you'll need
to complete each project.
Prioritize your list and set up
a 40 year completion schedule.
Add to your list
as ideas come along.
Select from the list
what your budget will allow.
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FACING DEATH -
NO
FACING LIFE.
Its your turn now.
Tomorrow can be a forever
if you live it fully.
Tomorrow may be the best day
of your life.
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WHEN YOU LIVE A SECOND LIFE
YOU HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY
TO BE WISER.
For many families
positive relationships
have become almost extinct.
It seems we have adopted
the worst of the behaviors
illustrated by years of sitcoms
serials and sleaze TV.
We need to adopt a lifestyle
that will revive the supportive
and caring roles of the family.
We need a return to communication
between family members.
Most of us followed the models
of our parents or grandparents.
Fathers who supported their families
regardless of cost to themselves.
Mothers who sacrificed
their own time to help us
understand growing up.
It's time to turn back the clock.
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MILEPOSTS
Reaching the end
of one's 1st 40 years
after high school
can be very unsettling.
It causes most of us
to review our life so far.
We have survived
the affectionate belligerence
of our youth and the struggle
to view our parents' rules
in their proper perspective.
We learned conformity
all too well.
We probably limited our experiences
and our lives by seeking
our predecessors' approval.
Many of us have married
to satisfy lust or the urge
to bear children.
During the 2nd 40
marriages will have to continue
on the basis of shared respect
for each other's explorations.
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DYING IS USUALLY PREMATURE
BECAUSE OUR CULTURE
TEACHES US TO DIE.
Our culture teaches us to:
Quit too quickly
die too soon.
Stop our contributions.
Withdraw from others.
Limit our exposure to risk.
Play safe
quit too soon.
Stop seeking more rewards.
Aging allows:
Denial of our vitality.
Denial of responsibility.
Denial of accountability.
Denial of our survival.
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PREMATURE AGING IS SUICIDE
"Oldisms" are tolerated
and reinforced by mates
and children,
thereby shortening our lives.
Both mates and children
reinforce a downward cycle
of non-performance
resulting in premature reduction
of living rewards.
Children do not want to see
their parents die.
However,
if they are out of the way
and buried
or in an old folks home,
the younger one
is "free to die as well."
"It ain't going
to get any better than this
unless you change it yourself."
All of us are dying
in one way or the other,
but why do it too soon
to our own loss?
Why waste your chances
for more enjoyment?
Oldism attitudes
let us commit personal suicide
before our time.
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SUICIDE
OUR VIEWPOINTS KILL US
MUCH QUICKER
THAN OUR DISABILITIES.
-We are uninformed
as to our real abilities,
and over protective.
-We are too misinformed
and under motivated
to use our lives to the fullest.
Society determined
our viewpoints by telling us
what to think.
We participate
in the early termination
of our lives because
of these viewpoints.
Our culture tells us
to reduce our expectancies
for life thereby
reducing our lifespan.
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GENETIC PROBLEMS
Some of us may be genetically
doomed to short lives.
This is all the more reason
to get on with life now.
Most doctors agree
the will to live and a long life expectancy
are the most important defenses
against many diseases.
A successful will to live
or expectancy to live
extends the opportunities,
challenges,
rewards and enjoyment.
Many famous people
have made major accomplishments
by writing,
publishing,
and talking while deferring
their dying.
Jill Ireland
Sandra Day O'Connor -
Justice Supreme Court
Franklin Roosevelt
Churchill-
felt he was washed up
and useless at age 65.
Look at what he accomplished
before dying at age 91.
All too often we admire youth
like Kevin Costner and forget the fun
and accomplishment experienced by:
Caesar Romero,
Larry King,
Ronald Reagan.
We've been preceded
by a long list of long-lived
motivated persons who
continued to strive and learn.
We all admire long achievers.
Getty,
Armstrong
Toscanini
Eleanor Roosevelt
Jefferson
Ben Franklin
Lincoln
Join their group.
There is nothing to lose
but premature illness,
aging,
death.
You must determine your aims
for living.
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WINNING SYSTEMS
FOR ENJOYING LIFE
AFTER THE FIRST FORTY.
HOW TO LIVE TO 100.
Keep your knowledge.
Approach the next 40 years
just as enthusiastically
as you did the first 40,
but design a better 40 years.
You were prepared to die
before your time,
Prepared not to finish
this plan and throughly enjoy
what gets done.
You aren't at risk any more.
You are beyond the age
of mililary service.
You have survived
several car accidents,
perhaps a major illness.
It is best to act
as if you will live to be 100
instead of acting as if you
will die before 100.
Why make the effort?
The admiration and approval
you will receive for "acting"
like you will live to 100
is very high.
Age and wisdom is highly revered
and respected in our society.
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Don't move away
from family and friends.
Being anti-social can cost you
a couple of decades.
Don't be afraid
to spend some money on vacations
so you can resist the temptation
to jump and move.
In any case
don't move away
from your children
You'll be better off
where you are.
Your children are more likely
to return to your home
and old friends
as years go by.
(This could be the wrong advice
if your area
is economically depressed
with limited job opportunities.)
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YOU HAVE ALREADY
WON THE LOTTO.
If you have lasted 20 or 30 years
with the same company
you may have more retirement
coming than you think.
Why not stay around
and collect 3 or 4 times
as much pension
as they intended to pay you.
You may be worth
more than you may think.
The same is true
of your social security income.
If you retire and spend the
SS 5000
per year for 30 years
you will have spent the $150,000.00.
If you conservatively invest
the income at 5% compounded monthly
for 20 years
you will have saved 400,000?
A nice little nest egg
to pay the hospital bills.
If you get a new job
that pays $8800 per year
you will get a lot more
out of your life.
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FAILURE
Problems:
Starting to cut back
in the 50's with less than 1/2
of your useful life completed.
Failures make us want to quit.
We too easily accept failure
and start to fade away.
Too Early Death:
1.
A pattern established
by people who want to "get out"
for lack of success.
2.
Want to get out because
they are lazy?
3.
Want to get out because
of no new excitement
and challenges?
Many of us have allowed ourselves
to get out of shape
and fall into disrepair.
We have accepted too early retirement
and gradual loss of power
and facilities.
Some of us have been told to review
our genetic history.
Some of the relatives
had to check out early.
Those of us with
a family history of long-lived
relatives can be more optimistic.
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2ND 40 PLANNING
Low wages aren't
the end of the world.
You only forego money.
Anyhow.
More money
will increase your taxes.
Social security
will increase your taxes.
Social security will make up
part of the reduction in pay.
You will lose the self image
of being well paid
and social rewards of success.
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NEW IDEALISM FOR A NEW LIFE
Does the prospect of travel,
golf or playing with the grandchildren
leave you feeling dissatisfied?
Would you like
to be one of those people
of whom it is said that,
"The world is a better place
because they passed through it"?
Well,
go for it.
That's the kind of thing
a person's second life is for.
It's so much easier
to be idealistic,
to spend one's self
in a good cause,
when one has an assured income.
The idealistic young
usually have to do these things
the hard way.
If they get too uppity
for a good cause,
they're likely to lose their job.
A persistent,
easy-does-it approach
will advance the cause further.
But still,
it's nice to be free
to do it either way.
The world is full of good works
yet to be done.
Your skills and know-how
are needed.
Do you need a list of places
where a few good men and women
are needed?
Try these:
There are thousands
of young people
graduating from our high schools,
or dropping out of them,
illiterate.
Sooner or later,
many of the smarter ones
come looking for reading
and writing tutors.
There are thousands needed.
There are also thousands
of no-longer-young people,
immigrants and the dropouts
of yesteryear,
who have the same needs.
In this era of working mothers
and female-headed families,
there are thousands of kids
who need someone
to spend a little time
talking with them,
listening to them,
giving them some TLC.
The ones who don't get it often
turn into antisocial criminals,
or suicides.
This is a field
where what is needed
is both foster grandparents
and more organization.
Minority persons
have better access
to equal education
and jobs than they used to.
But they
(especially blacks and Hispanics)
are still being steered
into big ghettos in our cities.
Integrated housing
is the last void
in the civil rights picture.
As the recent hassle
over dispersed housing
in Denver shows,
integrated housing
is a touchy field.
It needs both more advocates
and more skilled practitioners.
The biggest danger
humanity faces worldwide
may be the "greenhouse effect"
of chemicals from fossil fuels
causing our climates to heat up.
This is an ecological problem
to end all ecological problems.
It could turn America's
most productive
middle western farmlands
into deserts.
To lick that problem
is going to take the best efforts
of millions of advocates,
voters and students.
The greenhouse effect
is probably the outstanding
example of need.
It is becoming quite clear
in economics and human relations
of all sorts
that our most pressing problems
know no borders.
What happens in Tokyo,
or Hong Kong,
or Moscow or Saudi Arabia
effects our lives in America,
or wherever we live.
These are a good study topic
for adults starting a second career.
These will do for a starter list.
Add your own.
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YOU CAN LIVE A BETTER SECOND LIFETIME.
At 55 to 70,
shooting for 100,
is a good time to review
where you've been
and what you've accomplished
so far.
Above all,
think what you'd like
to accomplish
in a second lifetime.
Count how much you own,
how much you have learned,
how much you have accomplished.
If you're one of those
who are comfortably well off,
good.
That enlarges your freedom
to make what you will
of the second half of your life.
If you're one of the many
who hasn't piled up
as big a bank account
as you would have liked by now,
join the club.
Its a big one.
But don't waste time
or energy on regrets.
Most of us had other priorities
when we were young;
love,
starting a family,
trying out various careers
for size.
Then after awhile
the needs of our family
forced new priorities on us.
So OK,
that's life.
The important thing is that now,
if that's really
your new top priority,
you can turn your full energies
to making more money.
The stock market,
real estate,
emerging technologies,
whatever;
they're all there with no age limit
on who exploits them.
But first count
how much you already
have accomplished.
Count honestly.
Many people tend to belittle
their accomplishments
when they reach 60,
few over-state them.
Look at all you've done.
Chances are you've given
a significant woman or man
in your life some years
of happiness,
moral and financial support.
Chances are you extended this
to some kids
your parents and to others at work
in civic or community activities.
Chances are you've not put away
as much savings
as you would have liked.
Chances are with Social Security
you've got a basic assured
income for life.
Who knows what else you've done?
Fill in the blanks yourself.
Chances are,
it has availed more
than you ordinarily give yourself
credit for.
So smile at your foul ups
of yesteryear and give yourself
the honest pats on the back
you deserve.
Then forget it.
Look ahead.
What a big opportunity!
How many times have you said,
"I haven't got the time"
to do something you
would have liked to do.
Now you do have the time.
If you still want the same thing
as 20 or 30 years ago
start planning how you can work it
into your second lifetime.
Then go for it!
Chances are that now
given the extra money
education and experience
you can do it a lot better
than you could have then.
You've got assets most people
never even count.
Aside from assured basic income,
you probably know by now
the value of living
within your means
and how to do it.
You know most people
are neither saints
nor full-fledged sinners.
You can accept them as they are
which means you can get along
with a lot of people
better than when you were younger.
You have raised children.
So you know how to deal
philosophically
with normal amounts
of noise and frustration.
And you know enough
to relax and and appreciate
the memorable moments
of fun and tenderness.
Speaking of fun and tenderness,
you probably have found by now
love is SO much simpler
and easier in the second 40 years.
Now that you understand
the difference between love
and infatuation,
you know when silence
can be golden,
and deeply companionable.
Now you can appreciate
full-heartedly those
who provide warmth,
continuity and acceptance
in your life.
Those are rich and real assets.
These assets will help you
achieve more of what you want
in your second career.
You will be able
to enjoy it more.
Plan how to win the prizes
that may have eluded you
in your first lifetime.
Then go for it!
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FINANCIAL SURVIVAL
ON LOWER INCOME.
Eating right is eating cheap.
Money is easier to manage
if you stop eating the wrong foods.
Eating the right high fiber grains
oatmeal and veggies recommended
may not be as interesting.
But its quite inexpensive
if you buy bulk cereals
and canned vegetables on special.
Limiting milk products cuts costs
of most food to less
than $1.00 per lb.
Two incomes are OK.
Let your spouse work
and have outside interests.
Your spouse will enjoy
the time accomplishing.
You will enjoy a spouse
that has excitement
to discuss with you.
Many women have opted to work
to add to the family income
and to meet personal goals.
In most cases spending
has not kept up with earning
so mortgages have been paid,
down-savings accumulated,
stock portfolios are larger.
Comment on catastrophic
medical insurance -
flawed but big.
You have more assets
than the kings of old
with a healthier
and more functional body
and life style.
You're much wealthier and healthier
than your parents
or than you expected to be.
Own 1 or 2 usable cars.
Wider variety
of medical options available.
Hot and tastier food
than kings had.
One of our biggest problems
is we have been able to afford
too much unhealthy fast food
and restaurant food.
Our generations have experienced
the rapid decline of smoking and
drinking habits.
An increase in exercise
and use of healthy foods
in our diets has helped.
Other suggestions:
Reducing caffeine - coffee,
tea,
artificial sweeteners,
diet pop.
Regular pop,
beer - high calories.
Water is cheap and on the diet.
Vitamin supplements
are not cheap if you buy
from sales organizations
or some health food stores.
Careful study of prices
and quantities of generic brands
can save more than one half.
Expensive snack foods,
while fun,
probably cause more medical expense.
My favorite inexpensive food
has always been peanut butter
and either butter or margaring.
With the goals of today's
health marks these products
have joined the limited use group.
Butter and margarine
are now substituted
by plain jelly on toast.
What to do:
Analyze your home environment
for health and safety.
Analyze your genetic
and ethnic background
to see what your group
has been dying of.
Take preventative measures.
How much stimulus
is in your environment?
How much support
is in your environment?
Will the support last
as long as you need?
Keep in mind your chronological,
biological and psychological age
can be very different.
Proper approaches to 2nd 40
planning will probably
give you a younger biological
and psychological age.
(I don't know anyone
who has turned back
the chronological clock.)
You'll have to consider
some low cost options
if you've been unfortunate
in saving money.
Try apartment management
and maintenance during peak seasons.
Apply in prime resort areas
if you're interested
in knowing those areas.
Rent out your house
for a few 1,000 per year,
while you're gone.
Sure it will be disruptive
to move in and out,
but the extra cash
can give you more freedom.
Consider house swapping
with other retired folks
who are careful about their property.
Sample ad:
Retired couple will swap use
of their 3 bedroom home
in Colorado for use of similar 3
bedroom house
or condo in Phoenix area.
Can be flexible
as to months exchanged.
Resort area maids
are in short supply.
The pay is good
and the work is not too strenuous.
Many times seasonal housing
is provided.
Cruise ship hosts and hostesses
require a more physical skill.
But if you're up to it,
have a ball.
Be sure you watch
the lifetime medicine TV series
on Sundays.
You'll make much better informed
decisions when confronted
by doctors.
If you're busy,
tape the shows just as doctors
have to for viewing at a later time.
Get your kids to tape them
if you don't have a VCR.
Don't get overly excited
by the information
in just one or two shows.
Keep watching dozens of shows
comparing the opinions expressed
with your other medical reading
or conversations
with your doctor and friends.
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MULTIPLE OCCUPATIONS
CONCEPTS AND COMMENTS
Young persons take note.
You don't have to be as urgent
about changing jobs
in the 1st 40 as you
previously thought.
Now that you are planning
to have an 80 year
accomplishment track
take a little more time.
Make sure you have exhausted
all the learning
and possibilities of one job
before jumping to the next.
Example:
A 28 year old AT&T employee
opted for sales retraining
at a point the company
was eliminating 30%
of it's work force.
(AT&T had 107,000 retirees
(average 65) many of which
took early retirement
rather than lose their jobs.
The average employee
retired at 58.)
During her 1st year
she was very uncomfortable
in the new sales job.
It seemed to provide
too many risks and confusion
as new departments were created.
At one point she seriously
considered leaving the company
because the new departments
were not well coordinated.
She considered going back
to school full time,
as well as other accounting positions.
She doesn't have to make
an abrupt decision
if she considers she has
a longer effective life span.
The extra 2 or 3 years
will become less significant.
I would recommend she stay
with the "high payout" employer.
This would allow her to see
if the retraining process
will improve and give her
new perspective.
Other conclusions:
Since she is less than 33
she has plenty of time to learn
more about other life work
possibilities.
Since she started out
with a Fortune 500 company,
she has not had a chance
to compare working environments
in multiple companies
before making a decision.
Her desire to do other things
may well be:
1.
Need for youthful exploration
of other life styles and careers.
2.
Real disgust with a bad situation.
Another option is pregnancy,
which may well interfere
with any career plans.
A woman expecting to leave
the Fortune 500 benefits plan
for pregnancy would have
much less interest
in tolerating a less than
favorable working environment.
(Follow up two years later:)
She went back to school
for 18 months
with hospitalization
and most of the tuition
paid by the company.
She graduated with honors
and an invitation
to a very exclusive
business fraternity.
Her husband played a strong role
caring for the children
so she could study
and go to school.
Now the children are three years
of age and ready for preschools.
She is going back to her company
with an entirely new
ball game available.
More financial
Homes appreciated 2-5%
from 1950 to 1987.
Changes in the tax law
encourage more investment
in the stock market
and new companies
thereby creating jobs.
In a few parts of the country
the oil business
or other industries have fallen
on periods of decline.
Prices may have failed
to rise or even dropped.
In any case your real estate
is generally a good investment
that tends to be rather stable.
Prices of basic condos
are about the same in most cities.
I don't ever recommend anyone
buy one for any reason.
Still,
appreciation in value
of your single family home
will probably exceed the amount
you would need to live
in the sun belt or other area
for a part of the year.
(Motor homes and yachts
depreciate and have high
upkeep costs.
Storage and boat slips
can be expensive.)
Serviceable small travel trailers
cost under $2,000 used.
Older small vans or motor homes
cost $3000 to $50,000.
(Be sure you have an extra $2000
for a replacement motor if needed).
Campground costs average $10.00
per day,
or $300.00 per month
or FREE if you're willing
to be a campground host.
(Being a host is a great way
to get a chance to visit,
if you want to visit.)
Average longevity charts
can throw off your planning.
You must use a current chart
that adjusts for your current age
and today's longer
life expectancies.
Many of us have a very active
plan for the 1st 40
and a passive retirement plan
instead of an active 2nd 40 plan.
Just working on your objectives
and goals for life
may add an even greater
survival percentage to your life.
Don't do your relatives a favor
by dying prematurely.
They don't need your money
as much as you.
Besides,
if you stay alive you may collect
more of your pensions
and social security
and have a bigger estate later.
Retirement planning options:
Example:
William retired at 52 after 30
years with his company.
He now receives retirement
at $20,000 per year
for perhaps 50 years.
The one million
in retirement benefits invested
at 5% per year interest,
will compound
to over two million dollars
by his death in 2030.
Example:
A entered the work force
late after divorce,
working for the government
at age 42.
She will be eligible
for retirement at age 60.
At $10,000 per year retirement,
she will collect
in the next 40 years over $400,000.
Compound the investment
at 5% per year.
This equals over one million
at death.
If A. accepts 5 more years
of employment in a FICA
or self employment category,
she will earn at least another
$50,000 to 100,000.
Which qualifies her for annual
social security of $8000
which could be used
for living expenses.
The likely return
from social security,
30 years at $8,000 year,
equals 240,000.
If you have worked
for a government agency
or the postal service
find out about double dipping.
Its legal
and you're entitled to it.
Do list:
Find compound interest
growth tables vs. rate
of inflation vs. rate
of tax increase vs.
decrease in spending needs.
Questions & Answers:
What happens if you're
forced to sell your family home
because of community growth
or too high taxes.
Take the profits but continue
to stay close by
for continuity
with your children,
grandchildren
and old acquaintances.
Reverse mortgage house?
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STOP SELF INDUCED ILLNESS.
Cut out cigarettes.
We all would
like to feel loved and wanted.
Using illness
as an attention getting behavior.
Be careful
you don't use your illnesses
to get a substitute form
of love and attention.
Why do we talk about
our illnesses:
1.
To get sympathy.
2.
Share information with others.
3.
Brag on what we've learned
(how about a better subject).
4.
Share your flowers with others
if you want them
to share with you.
OPTIONAL DISEASES
If you want to improve
your 2nd 40 years start now
to reduce these
optional diseases.
Diseases of Choice
coronary artery disease
liver disease
diabetes
lung cancer
obesity and its complications
alcoholism and other addictions
When we go to our friend's funerals,
we get used to the idea of our own death.
Too often the logical solution seems to die.
You must find a younger group
to live with and relate to.
Medical commentaries:
Cancer is primarily a disease
of the elderly and may occur
much earlier for people
whose lives are too stressful,
underachieving,
non-striving.
Unrewarded persons
may be more likely to let
the cancer or other diseases
take over and kill them.
Highly regarded persons
seem to have a better chance
of surviving for a longer time.
Preserve a normal liver.
Be more conscious of ways
to stay limber
if you're not in very good shape.
Maximizing that you
are in the best possible shape
prior to surgery
will improve your chances
for survival.
Comments:
You have many more assets
than at graduation.
College-experience-lifestyles
no requirements to acquire more.
Our priorities have been changed
to less is better.
Should your goal be to retire?
Improvement is the key
to long life.
Try to figure out new ways
to live better.
"I can't wait to get old?"
"This old rocking chair got me".
You're being out lived
by the wealthy because
you don't know how wealthy you are.
Any person that chooses
to take any of these
socially acclaimed viewpoints
can probably extend
their life span 10 to 30 years
beyond the average.
You don't need much money
after the 1st 40,
but you do need the right causes
to help support.
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BETTER WAYS FOR LIVING LONGER.
Seriously consider
going back to work.
The national labor shortage
is expected to last
for the next 10 -15 years.
There are many service
job opportunities available.
Sure the jobs are not
as prestigious as they could be,
but they're as good as 95%
of the young persons
can qualify for.
You can chose the jobs
that fit
your physical limitations.
You will enjoy
the communication
with fellow workers.
You will be more vital,
more interesting to know
and happier by far.
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GRANDPARENTS NEED TO ASSUME
MORE RESPONSIBILITIES
FOR THEIR CHILDREN
AND GRAND CHILDREN.
1.
We have several generations
of family destruction behind us.
Spreading to the 4 winds
has left our children
and their children struggling
to live reasonable lives.
2.
The media taught us cliches
such as "mothers-in-law
are tough to get along with".
"I want privacy
and no interference".
"Stepfathers are ineffectual."
These cliches have caused
our children to plan on
getting along without
immediate family assistance.
The cliches let us reduce
the bonding and attachment
possibilities for our children.
They have limited opportunities
for their learning and growth.
3.
Many men have adopted
the ineffectual male roles
modeled by Dagwood Bumstead,
Archie Bunker
and other media stars.
They get along
at almost any price.
Their,
uninvolved in parenting attitude,
handicaps their siblings.
Their male behavior,
at best,
is strong and silent
and reserving comment.
The family dinner table
discussions where ideas
get talked through
and explained barely exists
in modern families.
Extended discussions
for learning are limited.
4.
Most young men are not accustomed
to heavy give and take
in discussions of family affairs,
ideas and current events.
Most males rely on a few cliche
pronouncements then abdicate
to long silence
or to the wife's advice.
5.
If you're very careful
you can start now
to change these results 5
years from now.
You have some time on your side.
If you schedule and give
the opportunities for contact,
discussions,
reunions,
birthdays,
letters,
and telephone calls.
You can reestablish a basis
for learning and discussion
of family objectives.
Each father should immediately
take the responsibility for:
publishing family trees,
inviting relatives out of state
to come by and scheduling
easy events so children
get an opportunity
to know their relatives.
Dinners and lunches
should be scheduled
without interfering media
so there is opportunity
for questions and discussion.
Don't be surprised
if children don't attend at first.
They may be in that
"I don't want or need
my parents ideas" stage.
6.
Some other ways to think about
your family responsibilities:
more tolerance
more support
more care giving
more filling educational gaps.
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SUMMARY
1 life in the hand
is better than 9
that may never happen.
It's fun to
be chronologically gifted.
If I had known
I would live this long
I would have had better
healthy habits.
What are the 6 cliches
in this book with 6 great answers
for interviews?
How to live a double lifetime.
My story:
The very thought
that not writing and sharing
this point of view
might cause anyone
to not experience an opportunity
to further enhance their life
bothers me very much.
Life is composed of opposites:
Life - Death
Good - Bad behavior
Stack rewards for life.
More approval
for accomplishments
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Thoughts
Picture yourself
sitting in your grand residence
or retirement home
presiding over your loneliness
and premature death.
-Cutting edge older life
-Retirement
-Cutting edge retirement
-Live a second lifetime
-Live now or never.
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Problem Commentary
stop aging
start living
keep living
You can't be allowed to die
before your time?
Why die before your time?
Why act like you're dying?
-stop playing old roles
-adopt younger roles
-adopt younger action
-adopt younger goals
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ONE LINERS
40 plus 40
18 to 58 58 to 98
Many of us bemoan the fact
that our remaining lives
are short.
Forget those retirement plans.
You are into new career plans.
Live 2 lifetimes
for less than the price of one.
Life is not a cost
but an investment
in your happiness.
If this life has been heaven
as it has been for me,
then how about another 40
for the road.
Better rules for longevity.
Better ways to longevity.
Better ways to long life.
Better ways to a rewarding life.
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Reunion94
A Review.
Mysteries solved.
The intricacies of a snowflake.
The birth of a child.
The small nuances
in the development of infants.
My awe of a beloved child,
or mate.
The causes of failure.
The causes of success.
The inevitable slip towards death.
Finally,
answers and solutions.
There are many more mysteries
to explore.
I now believe there are
no unanswerable mysteries;
there is just the
unknown needing to be understood
and resolved.
I now know there is a cause
for all behavior.
You can understand the mystery
of the cause.
You can with learning,
eliminate the mystery
of the cause.
Then you can eliminate the cause,
or try to correct the cause,
with confidence.
Have the best Christmas ever - CP
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THE MYSTERIES OF LIFE
Many of my mysteries are solved:
polio
war
sex
measles
syphilis
AIDS
smoking
heart attacks
sunsets
illnesses,
white man vs. Indian
I've always found discomfort
with a lack of answers.
I've always enjoyed the discovery
of credible answers.
I've really enjoyed the rewards
of socially acceptable answers.
I've not enjoyed
my socially unacceptable statements.
I have always known my life
would be much less significant
if I failed to explore it
to the fullest.
So,
pretty much,
I've put my whole self into living,
learning and sharing.
And explaining?
(fruitfully? unfruitfully?).
My learning has mostly been
in reaction to events.
I did not plan most
of my everyday life events.
Oh,
for a better ability to have seen
the unnecessary pitfalls ahead.
Are there any necessary pitfalls?
Are their any unnecessary pitfalls?
Trying to solve so many mysteries
can endanger life.
I was so programmed to solve problems
I sometimes became exhausted.
But so far I have been self renewing.
I have been able to seek silence
and serenity in the land and mountains.
I have been able to look for
and find inspiration there.
I have been able to start again
after devastation.
I so long to live in harmony
with my fellow man.
I so long to discover the truth
behind my birth
and personal survival
of life so far.
So many pitfalls were avoided.
So many pitfalls were hit head on.
BIG blunders.
There are many more mysteries
to explore.
The birth of a child.
The small nuances
of the development of infants.
The inevitable slip towards death.
My awe of a beloved child,
or mate.
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TIDY SOLUTIONS AND ANSWERS???????
I still believe there
are no unanswerable mysteries.
Just problems needing
to be understood and resolved.
I now know there is a cause
for all behavior.
You can understand
the mystery of the cause.
You can do it with learning,
eliminating the mystery of the cause.
You can then eliminate the cause
or try to correct the cause.
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LECTURE:
DESIGN NEW DREAMS.
PAST DREAMS CAN BECOME
THE STATUS QUO.
Its too easy to become tranquil
and imprisoned
by your past successes.
This is an illusional tranquility.
Where there is no vision,
we have death.
Ghandi's dream inspired me.
He lobbied and fought
for millions of people
imprisoned by the Indian
"caste systems."
Today most of us are imprisoned
by educational caste systems
that are just as pervasive.
I can make some of the dreams
possible by using
the proprietorship skills
I learned as a child.
Keep your eyes on the goal
until you have really
exhausted your resources.
Byron said,
"Dreams become you.
You become part of your dreams."
Act on your dreams.
Commit your physical
and mental resources."
Reaching your dream
is very exhilarating
and fulfilling a real high.
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BUSTED DREAMS
The latest bad news is 50 to 60
year-olds are being cut off from
their jobs and retirement
in many major companies
in the USA.
So what?
Like so many hundreds
of thousands you were let go.
At least you are not unique.
You have loads of bedfellows.
In this
economic climate,
its not a personal failure
but a country-wide
economic change we all have
to learn to live with.
So you have to start over,
conserving your assets
and determining how
to live the next 50 years.
What an opportunity for fun!
For all the reasons
I've previously mentioned,
start a synergistic life:
1 + 1 = 3 (the sum
is greater than its parts.)
Add all the knowledge you
have gained from your past life
to new challenges and goals.
You can accomplish the "3".
One good thing is many
of the past differences
with our friends and families
converge to more common goals.
This makes it easier
to build and keep
new relationships.
Mutual support
lessens the effort required.
Don't get involved in too much
questioning of the worth
of your dreams.
Look forward to new
and wider horizons.
Remember only those
who climb the mountain will lead.
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Assignments
Read Culture wars
by James Davidson Hunter.
Right wing vs. left wing.
Assignment
Write to your congressman.
Call your congressman.
Make an appointment
with your congressman.
All students write
to an international student.
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SHAME
How to lessen pain.
Our survival alarm system
registers strong memories.
Spanking,
sex,
bathroom,
ice cream.
These memories,
good and bad,
stretch shame beyond meaningless.
Unhealthy feelings attach
too much emphasis on shame.
We worry about our remarks
that are delivered with anything
but full-scale approval.
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PASSIVITY CAN BE YOUR WORST ENEMY
COULD HAVE VS. COULDN'T
DIGNITY? VS. RELIEF?
VS. WAITING FOR DEATH?
Lecture -
Living a More Expectant Life.
Minimal expectancy
vs. high expectancy.
Are these Dreams?
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240
High-expectancy life
vs. low-expectancy life.
Living an expectant life.
Terminating life.
I learned to like looking forward
to things in childhood.
Now in my second lifetime,
I'm free to look forward again.
Three years ago I was looking inward,
downward and dying.
The real differences:
I expect to do more
than the first 40 years of my life.
I expect to live better.
I expect to be happier.
I expect to receive more love.
And tolerance.
And understanding.
I expect to be more intelligent.
And to take more vacations.
I was too fearful before.
Back to work
is the best of all worlds.
Thank the powers above,
if I don't get it all done,
I won't be around
to know the difference.
I only have a fifty percent chance
of dying before I am 90.
Now I look after my benefits.
I get more benefits every month
than I used to get every year.
If you have worn out your welcome,
find some new interests and people
you can share with.
Now I have permission
to be a grandpa.
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CHANGE
Change can be liberating,
awkward,
unsettling,
difficult.
You will have conflicting feelings.
So what?
Get beyond this to new feelings,
experiences,
and rewards.
Be prepared to accept
a wider diversity of assignments.
Asking too much may close the door
to what you really want.
Quit feeling sorry for yourself.
Just change for the better.
Quit feeling sorry for yourself.
You have just changed
for the better.
You have the advantage.
This time you know
how to get along.
What to avoid.
You know you are able
to rise above putdowns,
slights,
and competition.
Now you know how to act.
Forget fears of embarrassment,
instead approach tasks
with courage that you
will make a difference.
Drop old stereotypes
and generalities.
Don't tell people off.
No insults.
Lobby for a chance
to set a good example.
The views of others
are not evil or ignorant.
Try to stay open minded.
Be creative and tolerant.
Let go of excesses.
Let yourself
help share your power.
Make others more powerful.
Share your new powers
and successes.
Stop feeling like a taker
and parasite.
Improve our world.
Decipher ways
to remove obstacles.
Use your experience and ability
to reflect on problems.
Now you wish you
could have learned this earlier.
You could have relaxed
and rested easier.
Quit rationalizing your history.
Design your goals.
Question the worth
of your dreams.
Past dreams
can become the status quo.
Write out your dreams.
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Almost any one can be:
Cantankerous,
argumentative,
unclear,
guilty without trial.
Be careful with your mouth.
Live a second lifetime
for the fun of it.
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THE BEST THERAPY?
Get a chance to detach
from everyday structure
for 6 weeks.
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Look for a problem
and you find a problem.
Always in front of you
is the prospect of decay.
FOR MORE ON THIS
SUBJECT VISIT
SECOND LIFETIME
AGING 555
AND MY JOURNALS
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GOALS
Once you have met society's
minimum goals
it is amazing how much freedom
you have.
Probably the most important thing
is discovering new goals
that are meaningful for you
to strive for and personally enjoy.
I'm satisfied now.
Everything after this
will just be icing on the cake.
As I get older I'm learning more
about how and why young persons
like myself
have difficulty understanding.
I certainly did when I was younger.
I was too sure I was right.
I was so uninformed that I didn't
respect opposing viewpoints.
I can't imagine writing
these observations until now.
The limits of my past and likely
"span of management control" n
ever occurred to me until age 59.
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COMPLAINTS AND OUTCOMES
My biggest complaint
is that I don't lose weight.
I have so much,
I'm willing to give
and share this second lifetime.
Some part of each day is so good
that it is exhilarating
and I gloat with pure pleasure.
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1999 2nd Lifetime
How to squeeze a second lifetime
of accomplishment
into 10 busy years.
Writing more books
than I could count.
I lost track of the number.
Re-writing education and psychology
to explain our successes
and very few failures.
Lots of travel that all 30 year old
persons should have done.
College chapters
Peterson Think Tanks
provocative subjects
such as death rate in Russia.
Drop outs
Cradle availability in Denver
Statistics for cradle babies
5 year old babies
Winning Systems
Parent Training
Television short attention span
Pre-school attendance powerfully
affects a child's academic success
and entire life.
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1990 JOURNAL
Q.
What if increased mental ability
resulted in the understanding
of what will happen
in the "relative" future?
Q.
What if we took time
to understand what others
were thinking and/or feeling?
It is a problem to focus
these thoughts and trust them.
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ONE LINERS
one liners
You have a limit?
Get around it...
How? --
With our help!
Do it fast.
Leave room to support
your lifestyle and keep going
to school.
Widen your sense
of where you can go.
Expand your horizon by teaching
at a level you can be effective.
Expand from there.
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Can't use straight words.
Speak mush and leave listeners
to make their own
interpretations.
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LIFE IS SO IMPORTANT
I want to pack all I can
into my remaining years.
Wouldn't it be great
to slow down?
Live a peaceful life.
No,
not from my experience.
I have really been peaceful
and satisfied
with my accomplishments
since I was 45 or 46.
Now I'm just greedy
and want more
of the excitement
of learning and living.
The corporate man has become
partially extinct in my lifetime.
Perhaps I will spend
the last 10 years
as a professional holy man.
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WINNING SYSTEMS
FOR MYTH
OF EXPECTANT LIFE
AGING MYTHS
Spend more time being ready
to die than being alive
and vital.
You get much better
as you get older.
The world is more life sustaining
and friendly than when young.
A long life has more threats.
A shorter life has fewer
threats and terror.
Reactive?
Stymied?
Do it all over again?
No.
The second time
is very different.
Did you learn anything
the first life?
Why keep making
the same mistakes?
Myth--spacemen came to earth
to get gold.
Ape was turned into a man
so he could dig gold
for the spacemen.
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93 Assignment
Who is the most
interesting person:
in your country?
city?
state?
block?
club?
class?
You have to know the answers
to be in charge of your life.
Now that you know,
what will you write
to each of them?
Write one letter to each --
NOW.
You must learn the skills
to communicate
with the people who
may have power over you.
Are you 70?
It's time to learn
all the ideas you didn't learn before.
You've lived all these years.
Don't die with the old
limiting concepts
that controlled you.
Learn unlimited ways
to live the next 40 years.
Your mind can capture
the world of information.
Put new info into
a temporary place.
Store it there until you can
add it to new studies
and life experiences.
Now you can modify
previous information.
Were all very leary of presenting
a negative image of ourselves.
We need an in-depth
learning experience
to control our own life destiny.
Learn to enjoy your personal
talents coming to the surface.
Better understand life's continuity.
I must eventually
leave behind more anger.
I must replace all bad thoughts
with good thoughts.
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93
NEW LIVES
Give each new life 3 months 3 years
or more if it really
turns your crank.
As my inventory of living years
grows shorter,
each year seems to become
more exciting than the last.
I feel so lucky
to be physically and mentally able
to utilize my accumulated experience.
New possibilities and projects
take on added excitement.
I know I need to hurry up
and complete them.
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THE PRECISION
OF DAILY LIFE.
Rising,
cleaning,
preparing for sleep.
Trade tight hi-performance hours
for relaxed discovery
and shared experiences.
Become accustomed
to light performance
for half of the day.
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second lifetime
93 TALKING TO MYSELF
You can afford
to be an idealist.
To have lived this long
you must have developed many
survival skills
and reasonably healthy habits.
Take confidence in those skills
as a springboard
for several more lives.
You benefit
from a reverse perspective
on failure
and its messy consequences.
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PASSIVITY CAN BE
YOUR WORST ENEMY
COULD OF VS COULDN'T
DIGNITY? VS RELIEF?
VS WAITING
FOR DEATH?
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GOALS AND EXPECTATIONS
If you expect little from life,
you will probably
get little from it.
More than likely,
you will have
to be satisfied
with what little you get.
If your expectancies are high,
you will be less likely
to settle for the minimum.
You can make incremental gains
in the process
of reaching your goal.
You can savor each gain realizing
that each is a step
toward your end prize.
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TWO LINERS
Some days are jewels
some are crushed rocks.
All there is to watch is sex
and my aging body goes to hell?
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1996 second lifetime
Multilevel lives
My life as a printer
My life as a Writer
If I haven't written
to day I have not done my duty
today.
I will not have preserved the most valuable part of the day,
restatement and review.
It is
too easy
to wander reactively through the day
with out stopping
to appreciate what I had a chance
to participate in.
Megan was such a pleasant shock.
Discovering a big smile
with her pleasure
with herself
I think it will let me live another year.
Pleased enough
with themselves
to come back and say hello an get some unconditional approval and recognition.
Writing
This is one of the lives I never had time
for.
I guess it required more reading and maturity than I had at the time.
From very early times I Fantasized that I would write.
Especially when I read the romantic and dissolute lives of some of the famous writers.
I guess I found a way
to live similar dissolute lives
without doing the writing.
The writing just got put off.
It is so much easier
to write when you're not young enough
to chase girls anymore.
The mind can concentrate of the "real" important thoughts of life and draw conclusions..
In the past those thoughts were driven
to the back of the mind by pretty faces or other more pressing concerns.
Yes there were other concerns.
Financial survival.
Uppermost in the daily routine because the finances were what you were and what you could afford
to do.
The ever increasing list of "must haves" of the young and newly affluent.
Hocking your future
with time payments because you didn't want
to defer your gratification any longer.,
Some of those payments made me a slave
for many years.
Cars were the worst.
Every time I got a little equity in a car I wanted
to use it
to get a second car or the later model.
Idle time was spent paging the new car magazines each month,
or the latest magazine cover
with Marilyn Monroe's picture on it.
it was surprising how her physical,
mental,
and psychological living standards became a standards became a bench mark
for the measurement of any other person.
Of course there was another dream girl,
Elizabeth Taylor who lived much longer and has made me happy that I never got
to know her.
So collection of these reminisces has ceased
to be a chore and is now an opportunity
to save my reflections
for my enjoyment.
I am so much more curious about the minutiae in other people's lives.
since I have lived part of their kind of life it makes it more meaningful
to hear about their successes and failures.
Life of the parent
Fades in and out
Heavy responsibilities and concentration on their needs
for many years.
Today my attention seems
to not be needed except as an approving mirror on the wall that shines
with my smiles when I think of their beauty and accomplishments.
My children seem
to have many less needs than I remember needing at their age.
Perhaps that is a fallacy.
Perhaps they dream and fantasize just as much.
My life as a Builder
Intriguing yet
today.
I can wake up in the middle of the night and start space planning
for one or more of the buildings my schools use.
Living fantasies of grand mansions kind of went out the window once I started living in the Cook street mansion.
Who needs a bigger house?
How would I take care of more.
It is hard
to keep up
with all that it needs
to have done.
I would be really busy tending
to the plumbing,
heating,
trees,
grass,
asphalt,
if I could not afford employees
to help me.
It is funny
to compare the slow,
multi-year pace of the remodeling at the littleton house which has required a little bit more of my personal supervision and effort.
My life as a manufacturer.
Printing,
frosting,
lighting fixtures,
computers,
self esteem.
Celebrate each of my lives
with a different party.
A brass Band is the common element.
Share
with my students.
Happy Birthday 1996
99
I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED
WRITING MY AUTOBIOGRAPHY.
It has been a chance
to relive some of my past lives.
There were so many
forgotten adventures
and trials.
Looking at my life
with the perspective
of so many intervening years
is a lot easier.
I can recall some
of my worries
about how to live my life.
Many choices I made were exciting.
Some choices turned out
very disappointing
and changed my goals.
Fortunately
I didn't choose a life
of crime and dishonesty.
I am happy
to re-discover
the parts of my life.
Some of my decisions
now seem stupid.
I remember some of the persons
that helped me make stupid
and good decisions.
thoughts
Comment
Not going to college wasted
many years of my time
and let me lose lots of money
for lack of accounting
and high mathematics skills.
I was forced to rely
on good proportional
math concepts that weren't adequate
for some of the businesses
I tried to expand.
O
"did I really believe that?"
"How could I have believed that"?
Opinions
In 1999 I spend over an hour
per day writing.
I average 2000 to 3000
words per week.
I edit about 1000
words per week.
I get "behinder" each week.
Do I have
to catch up?
No.
I'd much rather write than edit.
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1999
It's hard to define a life.
It's easier
in the second lifetime.
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MULTIPLE LIVES COMMENTARY
Some of my lives were sequential.
Most were multilevel and one would
be well underway
before the earlier one ended.
Most of the specialized skills
learned would be useful
in the later lives.
At least making Building plans
and Printing seem to be generic needs
of any business you go into.
It is surprising to me
how generic management problems
are in the other industries.
We tend to think our daily problems
at work are unique,
only to find that others
in different occupations have had
the same problems.
222We tend to think we have unique daily
work problems only to find others
in different occupations have
the same problems.
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MIND
ACCELERATED THINKING
A FIRST PERSON EXPERIENCE
BY CARL PETERSON
Living with a turned on mind.
New ideas rise to the surface
like the bubbles in a Coke.
The challenge is to capture them
before they burst and fade
to unconsciousness.
Overwriting and replacing one new idea
with another so fast
that you feel almost desperate
to capture them.
And of course,
it is impossible to get it all,
but so much fun to make a pattern
and then fit the pieces of the puzzle
together in a logical sequence.
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THE DISCOVERY
OF LISTENING.
When people are not ready to hear,
they will not hear.
We must find better persuasion skills
and hitch them to our purpose.
Now that my days available
have smaller numbers,
I have changed.
I appreciate sun and clear skies,
getting up and functioning.
I see beauty and merit,
and take joy when I previously
skipped over them.
The care and love I have given you
will not go away.
It will continue to be yours forever.
Just a few more years...
weeks...
months.
Life lover.
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PRISON
I have received a death sentence
I'm in a form of life prison
until I die.
What kind of prison?
My choosing?
Other's choosing?
Media's choosing
97 UPDATE
I have had my part time webmasters
creating dozens of web sites.
I am sharing my family history
and free books.
The non-advertized sites currently hold over 300 megabytes
of material
Next year there will be
over a giga byte
of books and pictures stored.
I continue to pursue
my personal goals
for the Internet.
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2002
THE INTERNET NOW
AND AFTER DEATH
Is this the closest I can get
to life after death.
Mexican tradition says
there are three deaths.
1. The day you die
2. The day you are buried
never to be seen again.
3. When you are forgotten
Can I beat the third death
by putting my life
on the internet?
1998
DOES LIFE
START OVER
When you have met your goals?
QUIT OR CONTINUE?
Return to childhood hopefulness.
Reach for the clouds.
Imagine your successful future.
Jump from the ground and grass
to unlimited new neighborhoods.
Be free to engage in a life with
kindness
tenderness
relaxing ideas
MAKE YOUR MIND
MAKE YOUR FATE
Christian
Buddhist
Confucius
Is one choice as good as another?
What do I need to do to fulfil my life
a.
Stay connected
with those who are deceased.
2000
Time seems shorter
when we are looking back?
Time seems longer
when we are looking ahead?
It seems to take longer
to get to a new address
than it takes to go there again?
Why?
Is 30 years
in the future
a long time?
The last two 33 year periods
included a lot of living.
It is only when I list the sign posts
that I realize how long it took.
It's different to say
"I have one third of my life to live.
instead of "life is winding down"
or "almost over".
----------------------
MISTAKE FREE LIFE?????
1st third of life
full of young mistakes
2nd third making less mistakes.
3rd making no mistakes????
Ha? Ha?
Did I learn my lessons?
-----------
Here's another way
to divide the life pie.
First 33 growing and learning and
Second 33 hitting your stride
Third 33 cashing in or growing again.
What is there to cash in?
Start a new life?
-----------------
We are just not dying
like we expected.
It's not over.
It won't be over
for quite a while.
It's going to take
longer to stop living
than I planned.
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GROWING?
For the last couple of years
We have been
enlarging our nests.
Adding new rooms
buying more chandeliers and furniture.
Redecorating for what purpose?
Should we buy some more houses
to keep us busy
setting up housekeeping?
Have we been trained
to "play house".
My 30 plus kids are
moving to newer or larger
houses.
Are they in the same
"playing house" loops?
If we stop "playing house"
what do we do?
-------------------------
MOVING IN MOVING ON
It was easy
to set up housekeeping
in the four Landmark locations
in England.
We spent part of our time
stocking up groceries
and consuming them.
Learning how
to keep house and live
with the furnishings and equipment
they supplied.
Every few days we started packing up
to make the move
to the next house.
When we got home we
moved back in and
restarted our cleaning
and redecorating rituals.
Now we are packing up
to stay in Spain and Portugal.
We will stay in 4 locations
in 3 weeks.
How many more times
should we make these moves?
10 moves per year for 30 years
is 300 more moves???
-----------------------
THE DISCOVERY OF LISTENING.
Listening
When people
are not ready to hear,
they will not hear.
We must find better persuasion skills
and hitch them to our purpose.
Now that my days available
have smaller numbers,
I have changed.
I appreciate sun and clear skies,
getting up and functioning.
I see beauty and merit,
and take joy when I previously
skipped over them.
The care and love I have given you
will not go away.
It will continue to be yours forever.
Just a few more years...
weeks...
months.
Life lover.
------------
JUST TO BE ALIVE IS INCREDIBLE.
The Power of our life & energies.
Your Life is powerful.
I must harness your power.
Focus on our common possibilities.
Make the commitment needed.
Have a relentless purpose.
How will you handle it?
You need to find the will
to take charge of your education.
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2000 STAYING ALIVE
Perhaps I should stay alive
until my mother's
dying age of 93.
That is 25 more years.
Tracy you are 33
You will be 58.
Tammy you are 28
you will be 53.
What will our lives
be like then?
Here's another
remote possibility.
Perhaps I should live
until I have been working
for 100 years?
I did have an early start.
My father's father died
when my father was 4.
My father had to work
on the farm as a child.
My father expected me
to grow up
the same way.
He was "farmed out"
to other farmers
to support himself
when he was 11 or 12.
I was "farmed out"
to support myself
from age 12.
My father raised me
to be a worker.
He trained me
to be a worker.
In the late 1930's
I started learning to use
the printing equipment
in our Nebraska living room.
By 1940 I was helping
to build buildings
on the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation.
Milking cows
making gardens
Sawing down trees
chopping
whittling
was expected kid work.
Now at 69 I have been working
for 62 years.
So if I calculate
from the age of 6
and work for 100 years to age 106
it will be 2037.
Tracy you will be 70.
What will our lives
be like then?
At my current working rate
I can get a lot more done.
Can I keep my mind
this tuned up
for 30 more years?
Perhaps I have to have a wire
from my brain to my computer
to keep my mind working
after my body can no longer move?
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MY RETIREMENTS
I was fortunate.
I had several minor retirements
early in life.
Each retirement or play period
was fun for a while.
Boring after a while.
Fulfilling my curiousities
and discovering answers
has been the most fun.
It is easy to write
about education.
I am able to find
an endless set
of small challenges
in front of me.
Problem
Studying and new writing
diverts me
from re-editing goals.
I sometimes fail to go back
and make my point
more clearly.
Now that I have
written about Peterson Ewriting
I have more motivation
to do some re-editing.
Again I am being diverted.
My research is finding
some exciting persons
that arrived
at supporting conclusions.
It's nice to know others
who share my concerns.
Some have exciting ideas
I take time to explore.
Editing time wilts.
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CHANGE IS HARD
Can you adjust to change?
I was slow to change my beliefs
about slow vs fast phonics
sq3R vs 555.
I was a turtle
when it came to change.
I didn't want to leave
the old ideas I had learned.
I will understand
if it takes a while
to get these ideas accepted.
I have attended two or three
think tanks or classes
since 1968.
The cumulative effect
of that much listening
has enormously enhanced my mind.
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1991 SECOND
LIFETIME GOALS
Once you have met society's
minimum goals
it is amazing how much freedom
you have.
Probably the most important thing
is discovering new goals
that are meaningful for you
to strive for and personally enjoy.
I'm satisfied now.
Everything after this
will just be icing on the cake.
As I get older I'm learning more
about how and why young persons
like myself had difficulty understanding.
I certainly did when I was younger.
I was too sure I was right.
I was so uninformed that I didn't
respect opposing viewpoints.
I can't imagine writing
these observations until now.
The total of my,
past and likely,
"span of control" never occurred
to me until age 59.
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1990
SECOND LIFETIME PLAN.
Its hard to believe
but if you are 22 now,
(Tammy) you will be 60
when this plan is finished.
The same as my age will be
next year.
What will your life be like then?
How will you think then?
If you are 33 Dave
you will be 71.
If you are 30 Thad
you will be 68.
If you are 29
Tom you will be 67.
If you are 28
Jack you will be 66.
If you are 26
Stacey you will be 64.
If you are 25
Tracy you will be 63.
If you are 25
Sean you will be 63.
Will all of you be strong enough
to be my pallbearers?
Will your kids
have to carry me?
Who will carry on
with these goals when I'm unable?
ANY VOLUNTEERS?
Jane Queen?
Judy?
For how long?
Jane will be 80?.
Judy will be 92.
Will a grandchild
take up the flag and cudgel?
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1996 SECOND LIFETIME
TYPING SPEED
In this new non-war culture,
my prowess as a male
is now measured by my typing speed.
I'm in much more of a hurry
since my writing and experiencing
days have shorter limits.
Part of my creed.
Growth is a prerequisite
for living.
I have had great growth
since I faced death.
The first 30 years were lip service.
At 55 it became real.
I started living in constant panic.
Is death easy to postpone?
Possibly,
but I am already reaching
for understanding every day.
Who are you today?
What do you want?
You have one minute
to leave your message?
Nothing you have is yours forever.
You don't get to keep anything.
Use planned giving
to fill out your life.
Will you give away too much
and become uninteresting
to your inheritors?
Not if you seek opportunities
to listen to the others.
---------------
LIFE OF THE PARENT
I am so much more curious
about the minutiae
in other people's lives.
Living a bit of their life
makes hearing about their successes
and failures more meaningful.
Life of the parent
Fades in and out
Heavy responsibilities
and concentration on their needs
for many years.
Today my attention seems
unecessary except as an approving
mirror on the wall that shines
with my smiles when I think
of their beauty and accomplishments.
My children seem to have
fewer needs than I remember
having at their age.
Perhaps that is a fallacy.
Perhaps they dream
and fantasize just as much.
----------------
My life as a Builder
Intriguing still.
I can wake up
in the middle of the night
and start space planning
for one or more
of the buildings my schools use.
Fantasies of grand mansions
went out the window
once I started living
in the Cook street mansion.
Who needs a bigger house?
How would I take care of more.
It is hard
to keep up
with all that it needs
to have done.
I would be really busy tending
to the plumbing,
heating,
trees,
grass,
asphalt,
if I could not afford employees
to help me.
It is funny
to compare the slow,
multi-year pace
of the remodeling
at the littleton house.
It has required more
of my personal supervision.
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BRAIN
UNDERSTANDING YOUR MIND
I feel so high
I can't get over it.
I want more wisdom
from the world's resources.
Conditioned with life experiences
your mind and life awaken
yearn for something more personal
grow a soul?
What do you think of
when you think of thinking?
What happens when someone tells you
to stop thinking about it?
You think about
not thinking about it?
What happens when someone tells you
not to be creative about "A"?
You seem to get more ideas
about "A" than you ever had before.
Sometimes you can get creative
about something else
in some other part of your life
but it is impossible
to shut down your mind
and become a robot.
Formulating the right question
is 50-90% of solving a problem.
Live a life so involved
with no apologies
for a wasted or minimized life.
Are you looking at life
and seeing nothing?
Opportunities for personal growth
recognition and respect
of your friends.
Time to do more reflection
rather than reactive responses
to adversarial conversational
verbal input.
----------------------
AT 65 I AM LIVING
WITH A RAPIDLY INCREASING
INTENSITY OF LIFE.
I have many escalating
dreams & goals
to be accomplished.
I am trying to make sense
of a confusing array
of relatively short term
experiences and involvements.
I'm concerned with being happy.
I want to remain
intellectually honest.
I try to listen
to other persons
with reverence,
humility.
----------------------
1997 SECOND LIFETIME
UPDATE
48 YEARS AFTER HIGH SCHOOL
GRADUATION
Much more pungent
and emotion filled writing.
As each year goes by
the concepts get boiled down
to more sound bites.
Short statements and both
winning and losing lists
from 1991 have now grown
from 1000 to 4000
and are still climbing fast.
So many new ways
to say something.
It is much easier for me
to follow the process.
As we become increasingly
aware of our fragility
and shorter lease on life
as we know it.
Parts of our bodies that soared
with strength and agility
have become sluggish
and unresponsive.
Just as we arrive
at a better appreciation
of the values in our world
we have to temper our enthusiasm
with the all more certain
knowledge of our personal end.
-------------------
I have had my part-time webmasters
creating dozens of web sites.
I am sharing my family history
and free books.
The non-advertized sites
currently hold
over 300 megabytes
of material.
Next year there will be
over a gigabyte
of books and pictures stored.
I continue to pursue
my personal goals
for the Internet.
1998 SECOND LIFETIME
DOES LIFE START OVER
When you have met your goals?
QUIT OR CONTINUE?
Return to childhood hopefulness.
Reach for the clouds.
Imagine your successful future.
Jump from the ground and grass
to unlimited new neighborhoods.
Be free to engage in a life with
kindness
tenderness
relaxing ideas
MAKE YOUR MIND
MAKE YOUR FATE
Christian
Buddhist
Confucius
Is one choice
as good as another?
What do I need to do
to fulfil my life?
a.
Stay connected
with those
who are deceased.
----------
Time seems shorter
when we are looking back?
Time seems longer
when we are looking ahead?
It seems to take longer
to get to a new address
than it takes
to go there again?
Why?
Is 30 years
in the future
a long time?
The last two 33 year periods
included a lot of living.
It is only when I list
the sign posts that I realize
how long it took.
It's different to say
"I have one third
of my life to live."
Instead of
"life is winding down"
or "almost over".
---------------
MISTAKE FREE LIFE?????
1st third of life
full of young mistakes
2nd third making less mistakes.
3rd making no mistakes????
Ha? Ha?
Did I learn my lessons?
-----------
Here's another way
to divide the life pie.
First 33
growing and learning.
Second 33
hitting your stride.
Third 33 cashing in
or growing again.
What is there to cash in?
Start a new life?
------------
We are just not dying
like we expected.
It's not over.
It won't be over
for quite a while.
It's going to take
longer to stop living
than I planned.
--------------
SUNNY MORNINGS
Now that my days available
have smaller numbers,
I have changed.
I appreciate
sun and clear skies,
getting up and functioning.
I see beauty and merit,
and take joy when I previously
skipped over them.
The care and love
I have given you
will not go away.
It will continue
to be yours forever.
Just a few more years...
weeks...
months.
Life lover.
------------
Dignity may come from
the opportunity
to make a difference.
At best too many of us have
to live with a nagging sense
of discomfort.
---------------
MY INTEREST
IN THE HUMAN HISTORY.
Learning great concepts,
ideals and historical basis
for decisions intrigues me.
240 1995
Since my twenties
everyday business problems
have been the equivalent
of crossword problems
and card games.
-----------
1992 SECOND LIFETIME
Now that I am 60,
I have grasped the concept
that my remaining thinking time
could be limited to minutes
or something less
than another 40 years.
I feel a real need to develop
a better system for maximizing
the time I have left.
Can I find more opportunities
for thinking that can be crammed
into the years,
minutes remaining to me?
Yes.
One way is Accelerated Thinking.
This is an updated,
tied together,
review of the best learning
procedures I've used
or heard about.
--------------------
1996 SECOND LIFETIME
In this new non-war culture,
my prowess as a male
is measured by typing speed.
I'm in much more of a hurry
since my writing
and experiencing days
have shorter limits.
Part of my creed.
Growth is a prerequisite
for living.
I have had great growth
since I faced death.
The first 30 years
were lip service.
At 55 it became real.
I started living
in constant panic.
Is death easy to postpone?
Possibly,
but I am already reaching
for understanding every day.
Who are you today?
What do you want?
You have one minute
to leave your message?
Nothing you have
is yours forever.
You don't get
to keep anything.
Use planned giving
to fill out your life.
Will you give away too much
and become uninteresting
to your inheritors?
Not if you seek opportunities
to listen to the others.
---------------
1999 SECOND LIFETIME
It's hard to define a life.
It's easier
in the second lifetime.
--------------
MULTIPLE LIVES COMMENTARY
Some of my lives
were sequential.
Most were multilevel
and one would be well underway
before the earlier one ended.
Most of the specialized skills
learned would be useful
in the later lives.
At least making building plans
and printing seem
to be generic needs
of any business you go into.
It is surprising to me
how generic management problems
are in the other industries.
We tend to think our daily problems
at work are unique.
Later we find that others
in different occupations have had
the same problems.
--------------
How to squeeze a second lifetime
of accomplishment
into 10 busy years.
Writing more books
than I could count.
I lost track of the number.
Re-writing education
and psychology
to explain our successes
and very few failures.
Lots of travel
that all 30 year old
persons should have done.
College chapters
Peterson Think Tanks
provocative subjects
such as death rate in Russia.
Drop outs
Cradle availability in Denver
Statistics for cradle babies
5 year old babies
Winning Systems
Parent Training
Television short attention span
-------------------
AGING MYTHS
Spend more time being ready
to die than being alive
and vital.
You get much better
as you get older.
The world is more
life sustaining and friendly
than when young.
A long life has more threats.
A shorter life has fewer
threats and terror.
Reactive?
Stymied?
Do it all over again?
No.
The second time
is very different.
Did you learn anything
the first life?
Why keep making
the same mistakes?
Myth--spacemen came to earth
to get gold.
Ape was turned into a man
so he could dig gold
for the spacemen.
----------------
1993 ASSIGNMENT
Who is the most
interesting person:
in your country?
city?
state?
block?
club?
class?
You have to know the answers
to be in charge of your life.
Now that you know,
what will you write
to each of them?
Write one letter to each --
NOW.
You must learn the skills
to communicate
with the people who
may have power over you.
Are you 70?
It's time to learn
all the ideas
you didn't learn before.
You've lived all these years.
Don't die with the old
limiting concepts
that controlled you.
Learn unlimited ways
to live the next 40 years.
Your mind can capture
a world of information.
Put new info into
a temporary place.
Store it there until you can
add it to new studies
and life experiences.
Now you can modify
previous information.
Were all very leary
of presenting a negative
image of ourselves.
We need an in-depth
learning experience
to control
our own life destiny.
Learn to enjoy your
personal talents
coming to the surface.
Better understand
life's continuity.
----------------
1993 NEW LIVES
Give each new life
3 months 3 years
or more if it really
turns your crank.
As my inventory of living years
grows shorter,
each year seems to become
more exciting than the last.
I feel so lucky to be
physically and mentally
able to utilize
my accumulated experience.
New possibilities and projects
take on added excitement.
I know I need to hurry up
and complete them.
-----------------
THE PRECISION
OF DAILY LIFE.
Rising,
cleaning,
preparing for sleep.
Trade tight hi-performance hours
for relaxed discovery
and shared experiences.
Become accustomed
to light performance
for half of the day.
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93 TALKING TO MYSELF
You can afford
to be an idealist.
To have lived this long
you must have developed many
survival skills
and reasonably healthy habits.
Take confidence in those skills
as a springboard
for several more lives.
You benefit
from a reverse perspective
on failure
and its messy consequences.
----------------
PASSIVITY CAN BE
YOUR WORST ENEMY
COULD OF VS COULDN'T
DIGNITY? VS RELIEF?
VS WAITING
FOR DEATH?
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1996 MULTILEVEL LIVES
My life as a printer
My life as a Writer
If I haven't written
today I have not done
my duty today.
I will not have preserved
the most valuable
part of the day,
restatement and review.
It is too easy to wander
reactively through the day
without stopping
to appreciate the chances
I had to participate.
Megan was such
a pleasant shock.
Discovering a big smile
with her pleasure
with herself
I think it will let me
live another year.
Pleased enough
with themselves
to come back and say hello
and get some unconditional
approval and recognition.
------------
MY LIFE AS A PARENT
Fades in and out.
Heavy responsibilities
and concentration
on children's needs
for many years.
Now my attention is only
needed as an approving
mirror.
My mirror reflects smiles
when I think of their
beauty and accomplishments.
My children seem to have
much fewer needs
than I remember having
at their age.
Perhaps that is a fallacy.
Perhaps they dream
and fantasize
just as much.
----------
MY LIFE AS A BUILDER
Intriguing yet
today.
I can wake up
in the middle of the night
and start space planning
for one or more
of the buildings
my school buildings.
Living fantasies
of grand mansions
kind of went out the window
once I started living
in the Cook street mansion.
Who needs a bigger house?
How would I take care
of more?
It is hard
to keep up
with all that it needs
to have done.
I would be really busy tending
to the plumbing,
heating,
trees,
grass,
asphalt,
if I could not afford employees
to help me.
It is funny
to compare the slow,
multi-year pace
of the remodeling
at the Littleton house.
It has required
a little bit more
of my personal
supervision and effort.
-----------
MY LIFE AS A MANUFACTURER
Printing,
frosting,
lighting fixtures,
computers,
self-esteem.
I should celebrate
each of my lives
with a different party.
A brass band
could be the common element.
Happy Birthday 1996
--------
CHRONOLOGICALLY GIFTED
1 life in the hand
is better than 9
that may never happen.
Its fun to be
chronologically gifted.
If I had known
I would live this long
I would have used
better,
healthy habits.
--------------------
I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED
WRITING MY AUTOBIOGRAPHY.
It has been a chance
to relive some of my past lives.
There were so many forgotten
adventures and trials.
Looking at my life
with the perspective
of so many intervening years
is a lot easier.
I can recall
some of my worries
about how
to live my life.
Many choices I made
were exciting.
Some choices turned out
very disappointing
and changed my goals.
Some of my decisions
now seem stupid.
I remember some of the persons
that helped me make stupid
and good decisions.
Fortunately I didn't choose
a life of crime and dishonesty.
I am happy
to re-discover
the parts of my life.
I tried to copy many famous persons
of my time and culture.
Will Rogers was
a good roper and humorist.
I practiced his tricks
for years but
"didn't have a good rope"???
H. L. Mencken
was a sarcastic writer.
I got in trouble when I tried
to be sarcastic.
Charles Lindbergh,
pilot and hero.
Swedish,
shy,
writer,
daredevil,
uprooted family life.
Patriotic,
moved from house
to house.
Lack of high mathematics
wasted many years
of my time and let me lose
lots of money.
I was forced to rely
on good proportional math concepts
that weren't adequate
for some of the businesses
I tried to expand.
I ask myself,
"did I really believe that"?
"How could I have believed that"?
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Nov 23 1999
THANKSGIVING
REMEMBERING MY LIFE.
One advantage of writing
my autobiography is
that I can compress
the events of a year or so
into an hour of writing.
I can dwell
on the good events.
I can speed by the bad events.
I can remember what I
enjoyed.
Discovered
I can avoid what
hurt me
hurt others
embarrassed me
embarrassed others.
------------
THE VALUES OF RE-THINKING
Last night my wife
was recalling some
of our experiences
20 years ago.
She got this big smile
on her face as we shared
mutual experiences.
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1999 IT'S HARD
TO DEFINE A LIFE
It's easier
in the second lifetime.
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1990 ASSIGNMENT
List your strengths.
List your desires.
Look at the matches.
Throw yourself
into the project
with enthusiasm enough
to last through
the hard spots.
Enjoy each apprenticeship day
for what you are discovering
not just where it may lead.
Enjoy the skills of your mentors
and teachers.
Make a game out of trying
to determine how they got
to think that way.
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Life is a quiz.
You need to learn
the answers.
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EFFECTS OF EXPANDED
INTERESTS
"So what?" responses
are far less frequent now
as my interests have expanded.
I'm much more intrigued
by a new idea.
Compare with other goals.
Work on perpetuating
your impact on the world
but remember memories are short
and influence is fleeting.
You must continue to contribute
or expect your results
to diminish.
We hope that our values
will endure.
Hope that respect will continue
to grow.
Your legacy is what
you have given the world.
Not the money
you may have accumulated.
Put your life into succeeding
rather than concentrating
on failure.
We are stronger than we think.
We have reservoirs of strength
we haven't tapped.
Face the test of your lifetime
head on.
More than a curiosity
Growing lists of projects
to write and supervise.
Growing lists of ideas
that I want
to comment on.
Love Carl
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INCREASING SEARCH
FOR PERSPECTIVE
AND UNDERSTANDING.
I will be it's primary beneficiary
and get my rewards
from my remaining days.
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92 LEARNING AND LIVING
Life is so important I want
to pack all I can
into my remaining years.
Wouldn't it be great
to slow down?
Live a peaceful life.
No,
not from my experience.
I have really been peaceful
and satisfied
with my accomplishments
since I was 45 or 46.
Now I'm just greedy
and want more
of the excitement
of learning and living.
The corporate man
has become partially extinct
in my lifetime.
Perhaps I will spend
the last 10 years
as a professional holy man.
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WINNING SYSTEMS
FOR MYTH
OF EXPECTANT LIFE
Spend more time being ready
to die than being alive
and vital.
You get much better
as you get older.
The world is more life sustaining
and friendly than when young.
A long life has more threats.
A shorter life has fewer
threats and terror.
Reactive?
Stymied?
Do it all over again?
No.
The second time
is very different.
Did you learn anything
the first life?
Why keep making
the same mistakes?
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1990 lISTENING
AN OPPORTUNITY
PASSED UP.
Spend an hour walking
in the cemetery
of a family member.
Review what you know
of their lives
and speculate on their hurts
and enthusiasms.
Seek their perspective
and compare
with your own.
Review your beliefs
and doubts.
Listen again to the words
they told you.
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DREAMS OF LIFE
Coming of age
Time
Fear of pain,
of failure,
of acceptance,
of depression.
Lack of hope,
lack of control.
Strive for a greater
reverence of life.
Understand preciousness.
Struggle
to control avoidable
consequences
Unanswered hopes
Unfulfillment
Can't learn the passwords of life.
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1990 WHAT DO
I HUNGER FOR?
Power without effort,
approval,
less anger.
More ideas and information.
Time to learn.
Time to reason.
Have all my children live
to old age.
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PURPOSE OF LIVING
IS TO MAXIMIZE.
No pain
no gain
is a poor adage.
Invest in your life.
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